We all have fears. That seems to be one of the themes of being human, doesn't it?
When someone is fearless, even then, we know that they feel the fear.
They feel the fear and they still act.
They know what is more important.
They know what is pulling them forward, through the fear, into action.
But it's not always that simple is it?
Fear is tricky and sticky.
Fear is False Evidence Appearing Real.
And when something appears real, we argue for it, do we not?
"I know he doesn't like me!"
"I don't have the money so what's the point in planning my trip?
"I have to end the relationship. I don't have any other options."
"I have to stay in this relationship. I don't have any other options."
etc. etc. etc.
What's the fear underlying your statements?
"I know he doesn't like me!" might be a fear of being rejected.
"I don't have the money so what's the point in planning my trip?" might be a fear of failure.
"I have to end the relationship. I don't have any other options." might be a fear of commitment.
"I have to stay in this relationship. I don't have any other options." might be a fear of looking bad.
What's the cost?
What's it costing you to believe in your fears?
In the one example of "I know he doesn't like me," fear of being rejected might be costing them some of the deepest joys of life! Fun, self expression, adventure, aliveness, fulfillment, self love, play.
Are you going to sacrifice THAT just to be comfortable?
Are you going to sacrifice THAT just to be right?!
What are you really committed to?
What is your life all about?
What do you really want?
These are the kinds of questions coaches will ask you.
The answers that you create will keep you in action even in the face of your fears.
So ask yourself these questions right now, and write down the answers. Paint them. Share them. Post them on your wall and review them every. Single. Day.
And remember that everyone has fears.
Everyone who is great has fears.
The only difference is how
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