This post serves as a reminder for me to listen to my heart.
You may not know just how much time I spend in my head.
But if you spend any time with me you might have a good idea.
Most of the time I'm questioning, doubting, wondering, trying to figure things out.
Analyzing, judging, and totally stuck.
Even as I'm writing this post I'm searching... trying to find the right answer. What is the science of the heart? Where is the proof that it works?
My heart reminds me that there's nothing wrong.
There's no proof of that either... There's no proof that anything is wrong.
Our head will find the proof though. We will make up stories.
The brain can be trained to look for the solutions too. It is a powerful tool.
The heart can't be trained.
The heart can't get confused. Though we think it does. Maybe our brains our just too afraid (see previous post) to hear the truth that the heart is saying?
The heart knows
The heart is wise
The heart beats. It breathes. It lives. It is made of Truth. It's the organ of Love. It's the organ of Life.
What's sad to me is that we believe the stories of our mind. If we just listened to our hearts we would Know.
This serves as a reminder for me to listen to my heart.
Practice trusting my heart.
Seek forgiveness for the times I don't.
Always come back to Truth
Thank you for reading <3
We all have fears. That seems to be one of the themes of being human, doesn't it?
When someone is fearless, even then, we know that they feel the fear.
They feel the fear and they still act.
They know what is more important.
They know what is pulling them forward, through the fear, into action.
But it's not always that simple is it?
Fear is tricky and sticky.
Fear is False Evidence Appearing Real.
And when something appears real, we argue for it, do we not?
"I know he doesn't like me!"
"I don't have the money so what's the point in planning my trip?
"I have to end the relationship. I don't have any other options."
"I have to stay in this relationship. I don't have any other options."
etc. etc. etc.
What's the fear underlying your statements?
"I know he doesn't like me!" might be a fear of being rejected.
"I don't have the money so what's the point in planning my trip?" might be a fear of failure.
"I have to end the relationship. I don't have any other options." might be a fear of commitment.
"I have to stay in this relationship. I don't have any other options." might be a fear of looking bad.
What's the cost?
What's it costing you to believe in your fears?
In the one example of "I know he doesn't like me," fear of being rejected might be costing them some of the deepest joys of life! Fun, self expression, adventure, aliveness, fulfillment, self love, play.
Are you going to sacrifice THAT just to be comfortable?
Are you going to sacrifice THAT just to be right?!
What are you really committed to?
What is your life all about?
What do you really want?
These are the kinds of questions coaches will ask you.
The answers that you create will keep you in action even in the face of your fears.
So ask yourself these questions right now, and write down the answers. Paint them. Share them. Post them on your wall and review them every. Single. Day.
And remember that everyone has fears.
Everyone who is great has fears.
The only difference is how
I had an amazing realization this week. There I was, about to make a call that was totally outside my comfort zone, but that I promised I would make. I was talking myself through it all, trying to prepare myself.
"Amanda, just be with THEM. Just connect. Come from your Heart..."
But underneath all of those empowering thoughts, something else was lingering, totally stopping me.
A voice popped into my head that reminded me, “you don’t need to get it perfectly right.”
Ahhh, there it is. Not for the first and definitely not for the last time. I just want everything I say to be perfect. I want the outcome to be exactly what I want. And I want it tobe easy, too.
Isn't that what we all want from life? Everything to be easy and perfect?
But seriously, where is the FUN in that?!
In preparing for this (totally outside my comfort zone) call, my next thought was this:
What if I allowed myself to get it all wrong?
The absurdity made me laugh out loud. But my perspective shifted instantaneously. If I truly allowed myself to get it all wrong, I would be free.
Like a little kid with a bin full of glitter and paints and an empty canvas, I was so excited to get on this call and just allow myself to get messy!
I noticed something really interesting while on the call. I did it "all wrong" immediately. I asked the difficult question without getting connected first. I kept on talking about myself. etc, etc, etc.
But every single time I noticed myself doing it the "wrong" way - the next moment there was forgiveness, acceptance, and a blank slate for the next moment.
There was compassion for myself. There was freedom, fun, and play.
Ultimately, I actually just made the freakin call!!
Bonus: I got messy and had a big smile on my face while doing what I needed to do.
If your interested in breaking through your biggest blocks and stops, and take inspired action towards your goals... Let's talk! Transforming what's in the way of us creating what we want is the juice of coaching with me.